Mother’s Day 2020

“A mother is she who can take the place of all others, but whose place no one else can take.” – Cardinal Mermillod

This very special mother’s day, we spoke to 5 enterprising mummies who shared on how life at home has changed for them during this circuit breaker as well as some tips on how they manage their work and businesses while taking care of their families.

Cheryl Wee

WHAT IS YOUR NO 1. TIP ON BALANCING WORK AND FAMILY?

To be honest, I’m learning too. Especially during this circuit breaker, I had to quickly relearn how to cope, and coincidentally, we had to let 2 helpers go, one of whom takes care of Marc, so I’ve been struggling at being a stay home working mom. For now, taking care of the kids takes precedence, because I’m responsible for their sleeping, waking, eating, feeding, changing diapers, activity time, and it’s overwhelming at times especially with 2 under 2.

So work is taking a back seat for now, and i ask Roy to help our with work. Another thing is, set a timetable, a time for everything, so everything is less haphazard. In the time I’m supposed to work, I do the best I can to finish up, so when I’m with the kids, I won’t have to worry.

But for my number 1 tip, write down everything u need to do, and strike it off as a checklist. When I write things down, I have less tendency to forget or miss out on things and rush last minute.

HOW ARE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY COPING WITH THIS CIRCUIT BREAKER.. HOW ARE YOU KEEPING (YOUR KIDS) BUSY?

It’s good but also physically and mentally draining. Mainly because I am shorthanded at home, which leaves most of the children’s care to me, which means I’m really tied down by them and unable to work. Plus it is physically tiring to take care of 2 under 2. I now have a new found respect for stay home moms!! You guys are amazingly strong!

We also make it a point to keep our spirits up and stay positive, besides living together and seeing each other 24/7, plus WFH is actually not easy with kids, somehow while it’s a lot busier and more stressful, we try our best to be tolerant and keep moving forward.

DO YOU HAVE ANY ENCOURAGEMENT FOR ALL THE MOTHERS OUT THERE?

You are enough! You as a person and all you’ve done is enough.


Tay Kewei

WHAT IS YOUR NO 1. TIP ON BALANCING WORK AND FAMILY?

Mom guilt is definitely real, as a lot of us can’t deal with focusing on only work, but being a full time mom is also not our cup of tea. I feel that recognizing we are not alone and sharing our struggles with fellow mums definitely helps!

HOW ARE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY COPING WITH THIS CIRCUIT BREAKER.. HOW ARE YOU KEEPING (YOUR KIDS) BUSY?

I can’t keep up with engaging him all day, so I do use screen time when I need him to be quiet, though I don’t wish to! We definitely use different activities like LEGO, play dough, books and activities to engage him in learning as well.

DO YOU HAVE ANY ENCOURAGEMENT FOR ALL THE MOTHERS OUT THERE?

This Mother’s Day is extra special because of circuit breaker! We had the time to bond with our kids and really spend time with our families, so I just wanna wish all Mums a lovely Mother’s Day, and to treasure such special times that are rare to come by.

Sabrina Joseph-Tan

WHAT IS YOUR NO 1. TIP ON BALANCING WORK AND FAMILY?

Delegate. Get all the help you need. Don’t burnout yourself with unnecessary chores. There is only one of you and you should prioritise what you do yourself. With family, it’s more important to be present, to do things WITH your family rather than FOR your family.

HOW ARE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY COPING WITH THIS CIRCUIT BREAKER.. HOW ARE YOU KEEPING (YOUR KIDS) BUSY?


This CB is challenging but we also think it’s a blessing in disguise. I get to spend quality time everyday with my son and my husband, who’s usually really busy at work. We keep busy by staying active, and doing things together as a family.. as this takes up a lot more time than doing things alone!

DO YOU HAVE ANY ENCOURAGEMENT FOR ALL THE MOTHERS OUT THERE?


You know what’s best for your children, don’t let the world question your choices.


Priscilla Tan

WHAT IS YOUR NO 1. TIP ON BALANCING WORK AND FAMILY?

Remember that this is new to everybody, including your kid!
It was really hard for me at first, trying to take on the homeschool mother role. I got frustrated when I planned activities and my son couldn’t focus and only wanted to play. Then I realized that this is new for him too, and he needs time to adapt to his previous notion of home = play, that home = a place of learning now as well. I took time to explain to him what I was trying to do and told him I’m now Teacher Mama. Now he asks for Teacher Mama even on Sundays and I’m like “Sorry I’m off today!”

HOW ARE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY COPING WITH THIS CIRCUIT BREAKER.. HOW ARE YOU KEEPING (YOUR KIDS) BUSY?

I quite enjoy the Circuit Breaker because it’s forcing me to adapt to a new environment and learn new things like how to bring my music on virtual events. Especially during this time where there are no physical boundaries at home, my husband and I try to plan meetings around each other, to make sure we don’t clash and both of us can take turns to have uninterrupted meetings.

I’m keeping my son busy or he’s keeping me busy? Haha. I try to plan different topics for each week E.g Nature, Science, Music so there’s a running theme for all the activities we do together! Also, my son has watched The Lion King movie (1.5 hours) 5 times in this Circuit Breaker already haha!

DO YOU HAVE ANY ENCOURAGEMENT FOR ALL THE MOTHERS OUT THERE?


There’s no perfect mother because we all make mistakes, so keep loving and learning how to be a better version of yourself everyday.


Jenny Tay

WHAT IS YOUR NO 1. TIP ON BALANCING WORK AND FAMILY?

My number 1 tip on balancing work and family is to be fully present in whatever you are doing. Sometimes, your day gets so busy that it passes by in a blur so it’s better to carve out dedicated work time and family time separately so that you can give your 100 percent in each and be fully present whenever you can.

HOW ARE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY COPING WITH THIS CIRCUIT BREAKER.. HOW ARE YOU KEEPING (YOUR KIDS) BUSY?

We are thankful that we can take this opportunity to spend good quality time with our kids. As our kids are still really young , we aren’t that stressed up about home based learning. My 2 year old toddler gets to free play alot , with her day comprising a mix of painting , reading , water play and joining us in our daily mat exercise regime.

DO YOU HAVE ANY ENCOURAGEMENT FOR ALL THE MOTHERS OUT THERE?

We may not be able to give our kids 100 percent of our time , but it’s the quality of those moments spent together that matters the most. Be fully present in those moments that you have together